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posted by [personal profile] pmsumner at 10:00pm on 31/05/2002
I was wandering into the Restaurant (I hate spelling that word) at work, being bored (Kellie's birthday, she gave us an hour and three quarters for lunch break...), when what did I see? I saw people sitting round reading a printout of my recent Livejournal entries. To say I was slightly shocked wouldn't come close, I was fecking terrified. I don't know what I've written as friends only in the last week or more, I am fairly loose with the security of my posts, not liking to restrict anything unless I see a damned good reason.

All I can say is thank the Gods up there (or down there) that it was just boring drivel. Heh. I'd given the address to Heather a few days back, not as an exercise in trust as such, but I wanted to see if she'd look around and see what she said, if anything. My interests are anything but innocent - is what I mean..

As it turns out, it proved to be quite a useful exercise in trust. Whilst I didn't say anything about keeping it private, I would not show anyone another person's writing (or display their art, or play their music) in a public forum without asking first. It's just polite. And whilst what they saw is on the web, nobody knew about it and showing it to them without even saying anything to me is just plain rude, in my eyes.

To put it in a real world context, would you show a group of people someone else's paper journal if they told you where it was kept?

Looks like I'm going to have to be wary about what goes in public posts from now on...
Though on the other hand, I'm hardly rude about anyone, anything that I write is unlikely to be insulting. It's just not my style :) I'll carry on as normal. Just hope that none of them took a note of the URL.
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posted by [identity profile] cynnerth.livejournal.com at 02:12pm on 31/05/2002
Wow....I don't know what I'd do if I discovered someone was printing out my journal and showing other people. I guess if I make entries public, then anything goes. But if someone was printing out Friends Only posts and showing them, I think I'd throw a FIT!
 
posted by [identity profile] phil99.livejournal.com at 02:21pm on 31/05/2002
Hmmm. They weren't friends only, thanks be. Whilst I don't think that my journal is private and hidden from people I know (It was easy to find my journal by searching for my name in Google for a while), it's not publically advertised.

It's this that annoyed me the most, not that someone was printing this out, but that it's effectively advertising it, telling people where to find it.

If they were doing it with friends only, I would have been _very_ pissed, and probably would have gone a bit mad...
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posted by [personal profile] emma at 05:34pm on 31/05/2002
that happened to be, i was absolutely furious. someone i'd forgotten about was on my friends list, when i generally don't have anyone on my list from the town where i live. and apparently she's friends with this girl who was in my class at the time, and i'd written about my class and how frustrating it was for various reasons, and had talked about the people in an unfavourable way. the person it was about was round at supposedfriend's house, read it all, discussed it with my class, etc. i never went back. i was absolutely livid. also at the fact the subject of these posts felt it appropriate to inform my school, and her parents, and a phone call went to MY PARENTS. for fuck's sake, i was 19 at the time, i was doing an extra A level and was not some little kid who needs her parents involved in everything, it was a protected entry, it had fuck all to do with the school... so i was angry. very very very angry.

so i know how you feel phil. only worse :p
 
posted by [identity profile] phil99.livejournal.com at 03:31pm on 01/06/2002
*smiles* Eeek, that's about a million times worse than mine - and mine's not even bad (In the end. Even though it had bad potential).

Can't believe they called your parents, that's just daft.
 
posted by [identity profile] jav.livejournal.com at 03:30pm on 31/05/2002
I would feel so betrayed! why would she print them out?? did you discuss it with her after?
 
posted by [identity profile] phil99.livejournal.com at 03:26pm on 01/06/2002
I did, I don't know, and no.

Why not? Because what she actually printed out wasn't anything that I minded people seeing. It just reinforced how dull my life has been :) All I'm going to do in this case is thank my lucky stars that I've been careful and be more wary about who I give my details to in the future.
 
posted by (anonymous) at 04:04pm on 31/05/2002
Phil
You must have known that by telling Heather the URL that the whole group would know it by the end of the day!!
Never mind you learn from your mistakes!!
Next time don't be so quick to trust people they can be very two-faced!!
 
posted by [identity profile] phil99.livejournal.com at 03:23pm on 01/06/2002
Maybe, maybe not. True indeed are the words "you learn from your mistakes" but this is a mistake I'd rather not have to make.

"You must have known..."

Not in the slightest. I don't make any pretence to know anyone in the group well enough to be able to judge how they will react to a situation. As far as I am concerned, everyone in the group is still fairly unpredictable. Call it me being cynical, or something, but I have learnt through bad experiences that you can't second-guess people.

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